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Pain now or Pain Later
Pain now or later.Â
Almost every time I get a new client the first thing that they learn is that they have been putting off their pain. Â
Each of us has discomfort that we deal with on a regular basis.
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Pain comes in...
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Letting go of Control
Why we use pornography even when we donât want to.
When we try to control our feelings the results begin to overwhelm us.Â
The paradox of control
On a personal level, it refers to the phenomenon by which the harder a...
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Focusing on What Is
What is, not what should be
All good stories start at 330 am right. September 15 2001, just a few days after the September 11th terrorist attack, my missionary companion, the other two elders in our apartment and I...
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Fear is holding you back
Making decisions from a place of fear.Â
What is fear and why do we often make decisions from a place of fear rather than from a place of abundance?
Fear of missing out
Not having enough
Failure
Not being...
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Why would my husband lie to me?
Why Would my Husband Lie to me? And other questions Wives ask when their spouse uses pornography.
Over the last couple of weeks my wife and I have had a number of conversations with a new client and his wife.
They had...
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4 Secrets to having more joy in your life.
-Â Â Â Â Â Â The sun is setting and the kids are out making the gleeful noises that signal an amazing day is ending.
-Â Â Â Â Â Â Itâs about bed time and I am sitting down to record
-Â Â Â Â Â Â Thinking, what is the skill the thing...
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Accountability is Awesome
-Â Â Â Â Â Â The more accountability we take for our experience here â what happens to us, what we create, what we see as external or internal struggles â the more choices we have
o  This is about ownership
o  Ownership...
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3 Questions that I ask when someone says, "I'm an addict"
Does it matter whether you are an addict?
Does it abdicate your agency?
Does that thought serve you? - Does thinking it make you more likely to stop using pornography?
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Emotions are a lot like bears
The urges are taking over my life â or that is kind of what a lot of us are feeling right now.
For a lot of us this last 2 weeks have been really challenging.
A lot of us are feeling trapped, stuck, and cooped up
This...
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Getting Things Done - Bonus episode
Is the corona virus lockdown getting you down, here is something to help you be your most productive self. There's even a free download https://www.zachspafford.com/getitdone (https://www.zachspafford.com/getitdone)
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I feel love in spite of the corona virus
Love â
As papi to 8 children I have been regularly faced with a significant load in trying to connect with my kids.
There is a lot that happens in life, there is a lot of living that 10 people do in one house, so...
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Victim Mentality
Victim-hood and the blame game.
-Â Â Â Â Â Â Not too many people think or express that they are the victim.
-Â Â Â Â Â Â Not weakness, just our brain justifying our behavior
-Â Â Â Â Â Â Indicators of victim...
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