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5 Keys to Trust Again

Episode #66

First, we want to announce here on the podcast that this is the year!   Darcy and I have built a world class membership for you and your loved ones to come and make 2021 your year to finally put pornography behind you and as a special offer, you can be a founding member for less than the cost of one date night each month.  Get a year pass as a founding member, lock in this price forever, and make 2021 the year you stop feeling so frustrated and overwhelmed and start feeling more confident, fulfilled and successful!   We can help you do that. We are going to get you there and have fun in the process.   We are going to have seven different ways you can get help in the membership.  We are going to have a monthly workshop, where we take a deep dive on one of the skills you need to get pornography out of your life.  Then we are going to have six monthly calls for coaching and Q&A. 2 for those dealing with pornography, run by me. 2 for spouses and 2 for parents.  IF you are dealing with pornography in your life, in your marriage, or in your household , this is the perfect moment to set yourself up so 2021 is your year.  We can help you do that.  As part of our last webinar we had two very interesting questions come up in our discussion and I wanted to highlight them here with the help of my sweet heart What is the catalyst that gets the wife to jump over the anger and betrayal issues, my wife has been upset and angry for 11 years now. I’m a wife. I’d like to know how you rebuild trust, when lying is such a big part of the pornography compulsion addiction or problem? If you would like to come to our next free webinar, you can by signing up at zachspafford.com/freecall or click the “Free Webinar” link at zachspafford.com We love having people come to our calls and work through some of the very deeply held difficulties that have been part of their struggle to overcome pornography use in their marriages. These calls are free and are so helpful at getting people started on the road to a life where pornography doesn’t intrude on their happiness.  These two questions boil down to essentially one thing.  “How do I trust and even love my spouse again?” Darcy: I think it’s really important to recognize here that no one is requiring that you stay.  You can choose to leave this situation.  You may not like what that looks like for any number of reasons but staying or going is 100% your responsibility and your choice.  -       That perspective is essential to building the life that you want, not just in terms of a marriage where pornography has been present.   -        Zach: I think it is also really important to see that the men who are struggling with this issue are almost invariably, earnestly trying and have desire to eliminate it from their lives.  -       I’ve spoken to so many men and women who struggle with pornography use in their lives and not one that I’ve come across has said, “I don’t want to give this up, but my spouse says I have to.” -       Their struggle is real and they are trying to be the best they can.  -        -        1.     The behavior of an individual is about that person trying to feel good.  a.     We’ve talked about this on the podcast before, but maybe we’ll just put a fine point on this.  b.     Our lower brain is geared toward helping keep us from feeling bad and is not very good at distinguishing between actual physical danger and the pain of feeling lonely, sad, stressed, tired, hungry or... Support this podcast